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July 17, 2009Crazy Deadstar Assembly Fan
September 4, 2009I’m not sure why, but for the last few days I’ve been corresponding to a girl on Facebook who claims she has met me, that she’s my girlfriend, and that she’s going to be moving in with me soon. Obviously, she’s really misinformed and there’s a couple of times where I really thought she may have been crazy.
In reality, this isn’t the first time this has happened. Before I get into this, let me tell you a short story of a similar occurrence which left me baffled.
A few years ago, around the time Deadstar Assembly was really beginning to take off, I got an email from a girl who was really angry with me. She typed out all sorts of obscenities and told me that I’m going to pay for what I did to her. To make a really long story short, someone had been pretending to be me and basically sold this poor soul the world. She seriously thought that she had fallen in love with me and that she was going to move into my house. She moved all of her stuff from Europe with the last bit of money she had and landed in Georgia where she was supposed to meet with me, and like a Disney fairy tale, get married and live happily ever after.
Many questions came up from my end. I asked this girl if she had ever met me in person first and if she ever got to at least see me saying the things I said. Even through web cam would have made more sense. Unfortunately, this girl only went with what she read in emails and social web site conversations with the person pretending to be me. I believe she even spoke with the guy on the phone quite a few times. In the end, she ended up in GA with no one there to pick her up from the airport and left stranded.
I don’t know what would cause someone to do something so stupid and crazy, but I guess there are many people like that out there because that wasn’t the only time this has happened.
After talking to this girl a few times, she realized that the person she had been conversing with was in fact someone else pretending to be me and she apologized for all the mean things she said to me. Apparently she thought I saw her at the airport and didn’t like what she looked like so I was pretending that I never met her and what I told her about her possibly talking to a faker was all a lie. I proved that this was not that case and that she began to understand how stupid she was for making those choices to drop her whole life for someone she had only spoken to on the internet. I told her to just be glad that she was safe and that it wasn’t a ploy for some internet creep to lure her in and possibly worse.
With all that said, Here’s what I’ve been dealing with:
I wrote her back and let her know many reasons why she should believe that I really am the real Dro and how she could prove it if she wanted to. First of all, The acocunt on facebook that she’s been talking to me on is linked to the DSA Facebook page of which I had to submit an actual copy of my driver’s license to prove to them that I Was really who I say I am otherwise they wouldn’t have allowed me to post the DSA songs in fear of a copyright lawsuit. Obviously if my account on facebook belonged to a fake, then that wouldn’t have been possible.
She then wrote back to me and said:
I asked her to answer a few simple questions that anyone who knew my personally could answer. I wanted her to tell me how old I was, what my full name was, where i lived, what color my hair is at the moment, how tall I am (anyone who’s seen me in person, even on tour could answer THAT ONE! lol) and so on and so on…
She refused to answer any of those questions by stating that she had better things to do than sit there answering silly questions about the person she’s in love with. She then proceeded to ask me if I knew Laura, Damien, and Tripp. I immediately assumed that she was talking about Laura Mayhem and her Husband, Damien from Shattered Glass Playground. However, I didn’t know anyone named Tripp so I told her that I did know Laura and Damien but that I guaranteed she didn’t know them personally because if she did, then I would know who Ericka was because Laura and Damien are that close to me that I know mostly everyone they do. I wanted to know where she lived, because from the sound of our conversation, I had a feeling she didn’t even live in Florida.
This girl began telling me that I do know Tripp because every time I talk to her on the phone, I’m always with him. She also let me know that she lived in Canada and that’s when everything became even more clear to me.
I’ve never been to Canada, nor do I have plans to at the moment. The other obvious thing is that I don’t just give my number out to fans or people that I don’t know. I don’t even talk on the phone much because I despise it.
and the conversation goes on:
In the end, I just told her that if she wanted to believe that whoever she had been speaking with was really me, then that’s her problem. All I could do was warn her that she had been speaking with a faker and hope that she will make the right decision about modifying her life to be with someone who lies and preys on the naive.
The fact is that she’s just another little girl getting her hopes up for a dream that’s been sold to her by another fucking scumbag. I understand that maybe there’s someone else out there who’s calling themselves “The Dro” and maybe she’s really truly in love with him. But after talking to her for the past couple of days it seems there’s way too much in common with me and the things he’s been telling her, except for the personal things which he’s obviously lied about to cover up his tracks. Maybe she really did go out to Australia and met someone who has their hair dyed like I did, but I highly doubt that he’s my identical twin. Maybe he’s a Doppelgänger? Who knows. Either way, I hate that there are still people out there pretending to be me and that there are still girls naive enough to believe that I would all of a sudden decide to date someone who I’ve never met before and change my whole life for them. Especially someone so young.
Anyone who knows me knows that I’m 27 years old and I live in Florida with Sara Strange. In fact, our 4 year anniversary is this Saturday and we’re going to have a blast. Kriz DK will be in town, I’ll be doing a photo shoot and video shoot with the band, and of course partying on my anniversary and buying my REAL girlfriend a nice lap dance from a large-and-in-charge black woman!
…and the fakers? They’ll still be wishing they were me.
33 Comments
Oh good lord… You need to start stomping asses over this shit… kidding… It is crazy to think that society has been molded to hold celebrities in such high reguard. To think that there are people who are that obsessive… damn!!! Is there any way to contact the other “Dro”???
wow its funny how she still insisted you weren’t you.Yet at the same time frightening that she is THAT brainwashed.
I think you did a good thing to post this. you would think in this day & age people would know not to get into these internet relationships,but i guess as long as someone is vulnerable there will always be a weirdo trying to capitalize on it.
How Stupid girl… i don’t think that she really likes you because it’s so easy to go to your myspace and read: “I Was Born in Rio…”.
But this was a very hard situation…
[just asking: Is there anyway to see DSA, here, in Brasil, São Paulo??]
Greetings from brasil, dro!
Byee
OMG. dude this totally sucks.
i have only had 2 problems with fakes. that i know of at the moment.
but mine have never gotten this bad.
But did you ever consider that maybe some people do stuff like this on purpose just to get you to reply to them and give them attention. I mean people are weiird.
Its so nice of you to attempt and set things straight for them though.
and my best wishes to you and sara 🙂 🙂
I have considered that many times, but I give it the benefit of a doubt and reply. If it’s real, these people need some serious help.
That poor girl has no idea that some fake dro was a pozer people like that have to be realy messed up to do that to someone that falls easly
But then again she shud know her dro bio and know better than to fall for someone she hasn’t seen in “real life” and confurmed the facebook
My best love to you and sara
Hey did’nt I meet you at the rainbow friday. You said you where going to call and never did. ):
Dear Dro my fake webmaster? ;)….I’m dizzy after reading that! Hey if she is here send her to me, I’ll do a porno with her….it would be a block buster moment for DSA haha!
Happy anniversary to you and Sara, I love you guys!
Only in America. You dont hear about this type of obsession in my end of the world. But you handled the whole situation well, and i suppose that’s all you can do. The price of fame these days ‘eh.
Also.. You weren’t wrong for posting this. Had you ignored her, Im sure you would’ve been a stuck up turd..
Had you told her off, you would’ve been a jerk, right?
…Im sure if you flew the girl out to a show and then a meet and greet, she’d still not believe you.
You’d still be an impersonation of this 19 year old. Eh. Life.
Ohwow.
Things like this really upset me. I’ve had a few people arguing with me about not being myself, and I respect how instead of letting the beast out, you did it in a completely non ridiculing way..
And the fact that you sat and went back and forth with this little girl for so long proves that you actually WERE trying to HELP her.. But of course she wouldn’t see that. Im assuming since you warned her, even though she’s dead set on trying to convince you that you’re not yourself.. She really can’t say anything if she decides to run off to be in her very own Disney Story..
You warned her. Tried to make her see the light.
Great guy.
heh, if your only 19 that means you were 12 when deadstar hit the scene
Wow. That’s just about fucking insane!
I’ve had my fair share of encounters with freaks on the internet but your stories take the cake! Say hi to Laura n Damien for me next time you see them. It’s been too long!
Hey Dro,
I wanted you to kno tht I am a big fan of urs and ur style. As well, I read ur bio on theDro.com and u kinda remind me of me. Also, I kno a few ppl pretending to b u! Not personally,no, but they’ve talked to me 2 b4. Talkin about how u guys will b on tour in Chicago soon, and tht HE’LL send me free tix to come and see u guys play. I was waitin on those damned things all last summer, and didn’t get SHIT! I am a REALLY BIG FAN of DSA, and the fakers piss me off just as much (if not more) as u!
So, just so u kno, I feel ur pain man. And, I don’t think tht blogging about th fucking douchebags tht pretend th things they wanna be and their poor unsuspecting victims is stupid or a bad idea at all. In fact, I do believe tht it most likely has HELPED most, if not all, ur fans.
Well, I have said my peace. I have purchased my own tix to c u guys in Chicago THIS YEAR! So, I look forward to seeing u, Dearborn, Dreggs & Kriz REAL SOON!!!
ROCK ON DSA!!!
☣LB☣
Never a dull moment with you baby cakes.
That is some kind of psychosis for posers to go to that extent.
Dro you manage well.
Its clear you care and elicit the truth.
Aside your great music and fame, I really look up to the goodness in you.
🙂 Rock on!
Wow, cant believe people out there have the nerve to do things like that… And lets be honest, the internets been around long enough & theres been enough cases of “mistaken identity” that people should know better than to believe everything people tell them online.
Hope she wises up soon.
I’m really impressed that you can remain calm during all of this mess. If something like this had been happening to me I’d probably go nuts. I feel sorry for those girls though. The question about your height was a good one… your short 😛 that’s okay because I am too. Have a great anniversary!! Take care!
Thats a weird fuckin story Dro!
The fact that she was telling you how old you were and that the other guy was you, made me laugh. There are some crazy people out there willing to believe anything.
I mean if she was a fan of the band and had anything to do with the band what so ever she would know a little bit about you and were your from. Its not highly classified information. I mean i could answer the questions you asked her i think and i dont even know you.
I wonder if it will get worse the bigger DSA gets?
Its not foolish ‘Golden’. Its helpful and its an insight into some of the things Dro and a lot of other people has to live with. Its not like Dro is ridiculing her, hes just putting it out there in case it happens to you or someone around you.
Thanks for sharing bud.
Thats insane! I’ve heard of people pretending to be other people from bands and crap, but nothing like this. That girl was crazy or something…
Have fun on your anniversary. 🙂
…who are you again?
😀
Ah! I feel your pain! I am dealing with all kinds of weirdos and people that I have never even met wanting to go out with me. Of course, no one pretends to be me, and as soon as I get my novels published, and I am hoping that I don’t have to deal with anyone going out there and saying that they are me, neither. Yeah, this is a badly typed message, but I am low on sleep because I have been up forever doing research on the internet one of the novels that I am writing.
Anyway, I hope that you and Sarah have an awesome anniversary! Congrats on the four year mark! 🙂 And hope you have fun hanging out with Kriz, cause from what few real messages that he sent me on myspace, he seems to be really cool!
I can’t wait to see the new photo shoot and any videos that you guys might be coming out with soon.
Best Regards,
Myra
So sorry to hear that Dro. That sucks, and that poor girl. Hopefully nothing bad happens to her if she continues to believe that she is dating you. How did Sara Strange take all of this? Oh what am I saying she probably feels sorry for the girl and hope things works out for her and she finds a way back home.
Can’t wait for DSA’s new album and hope to see you when your tour starts up!
I think your foolish to put that up, that just me
Why do you think It’s foolish that I posted that? I’m just curious. If anything, I’m trying to help those who fall for the lies and hope that by reading this they will stop being naive and making a big mistake by following internet relationships into reality where they can get really hurt. As far as the Identity of the girl, I Edited her name so people have a harder time figuring out who she is and she even messaged me and said thank you for doing that.
hahaha, I just find it hilarious.
And how tall you are is an easyyyy question.
I always thought you were just average height in interviews on you tube and stuff, but seeing you in person at the culture room in 08.
Well..you’re on the short side. 🙂
A pior parte é ver a pessoa que te copiou agindo e falando com naturalidade, ‘encarnando’ completamente uma possível personalidade sua.
Eu morei por quase 10 anos no Japão e tinha muitas fotos lá. Uma menina uma vez resolveu criar um fake meu e pegou essas fotos, e quando alguém perguntava onde ela estava ou o que estava escrito em uma placa, por exemplo, ela desconversava. ¬¬’
Ridículo. Odeio MESMO.
Yeah, you know you’re popular when people pretend to be you.
Yes yes.
<3
Sammy
Wow Thats Crazy
Theres So Many Weird Ass People Out There Who Try To Get To People And Just Want To Either Break There Hearts Or Just Are Being Perv’s Trying To Get To Them
Idk I Feel Bad About This Whole Thing I Hope This Shit Never Happens To Me If I Do Become A Guitarist In A Band That Makes It
But Idk People Are Weird
Btw Dro You Are The Man One Of My Favorite Bassists
I Hope I Can See You Guys Live Sometime
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Im Looking Foreward To The New CD Comming Up Here Soon I Think Idk
Wow that’s insane. I feel bad for those girls. It’s really sad how naive they can be.
Whoa. That’s insane! Never had anything like that happen before.
damn, I hope this confused girl finally realized she had been fooled, she was foolish enough to change her whole life for something like this? poor soul.
lawllzzzz. I love people. I’ve had a 16 year old boy pretend to be you. And I called him and asked me to sing a song I liked from your band and he didn’t know the words. :]
I do feel bad for you. I guess it happens a lot. But the internets a crazy thing. Have fun on your anniversary hun. :]